Starting Over

It has been a long time since an update so I figured I’d let Baby Soileau’s Fan Club know what is going on. A lot and, at the same time, nothing has happened over the last several months since the last update. After the February update about the miscarriage, it took a very long time for our surro’s body to fully recover from the D&C. Months in fact. Waiting those months for her body to completely heal and reset was brutal, especially hearing that this was longer than the normal healing time. 

Eventually, it did get back to baseline, and we were so excited to try for another transfer! Well again, her uterus lining wouldn’t thicken enough for a transfer. This definitely caused a very defeated feeling. Our doctor wanted to try one last thing: a natural cycle. This is when they let her body go through a cycle naturally to see if her uterine lining would thicken on its own, without the medication. We had a glimmer of hope at one appointment, but that glimmer was quickly squashed when the lining decreased at the next appointment. We knew, then, that our journey with our surrogate was over. We had tried four cycles and had one pregnancy with an early miscarriage. It was a long year with a long of ups and downs that ultimately led to having to terminate the match. 

When talking to our counselor afterwards, we knew moving forward we wanted our next surrogate to be vaccinated, which a lot of surrogates in their agency currently aren’t. She said this could cause a delay in matching (up to a couple of months), but we knew that this was the right decision for us. We have plenty of house projects; and with the school year about to start back up, we’ll be plenty busy over the next couple of months. We know that waiting longer for the right person is better than rushing into something with someone we’re not as comfortable with. 

Well, FOUR DAYS LATER, we get the call that we have been re-matched! (God’s timing and all of that!) They actually sent us two surrogate profiles of families who wanted to work with us, but one lady wasn’t vaccinated so that was an automatic no for us. The other lady and her family sounded perfect. They also live outside of Glacier National Park, which is even more exciting for us since we have been DYING to go there! Talk about killing two birds with one stone, right?! My friend said it perfectly “What an epic babymoon…literally coming home with your baby!” 

We have “met” them via Zoom twice now, and they seem to be just the most caring, understanding, and supportive couple. She is also a repeat surrogate, which gives us even more comfort that her body can do what it needs to do in this process. 

To say that it was a long year of disappointment would be an understatement. However, I think it is safe to say that we’re at a point, mentally, where we are finally back to feeling excited and hopeful! We still have a long way to go before we’ll get to a transfer, but things are back on track and we’re feeling good about this fresh start.